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How do you know that it’s time to leave your relationship?
Are you telling yourself that no one is all bad?
Are you afraid that if you do you will be all alone for ever and never meet anyone else?
You have 3 choices, make sure to choose, and not to just let life happen:
1. Take responsibility for all the pleasure your body is capable of now and come fully erotically turned on,
2. Suffer in longing forever,
3. End the relationship and take the time then to do all the awakening afterwards.
No one way is the right way. But when you come into your full pleasure body you awaken your instinctual knowing and your true Self.
Then you will KNOW you are making the right decision – to stay or go.
I use Self with a capital ‘S’ because this when you have bought all of you online, instead of just the Ego busy mind self.
This is essential. This is your Wild Woman archetype Self, your instinctual nature. Your KNOWING nature.
The pain of leaving can feel like death. But you get to decide.
What DEATH are you choosing for yourself in this lifetime? The one where you are living out of ALIGNMENT and parts of you die bit by bit. Or the death where you go through METAMORPHOSIS and claim the life that is yours to BE in, to experience, to Devour and be devoured by.
When💥came to me she had been in a sexless marriage for over 20 years. They have children together and a certain status in their small community based on her and her husbands very public professions. She feared losing all her family and respect of her colleagues and respect in the community. It felt like she would lose everything. She came to me to because she needed to do something, she couldn't carry on like this. She had such huge longings to be desired and longed for. She was committed and she got her results! She healed ancestral lines and the blocks they had given her around pleasure and choice in her life. She did all the learning for her own body and pleasure and she did all she could to try and make the marriage work. And then she managed to do the unfathomable, she left her husband. She has an incredible lover and partner. Is exquisitely happy. And her life didn’t end at all! The opposite.
I have a bit of a record with clients. They come to me and one of 3 things can happen – your marriage becomes the best it has been in years and you have the best sex you’ve ever had, your leave your marriage and you become exquisitely happy, meet your soul mate and have the best sex of your life, or you are already divorced and have come to me for transformation to have a future relationship that is what you truly desire – and this happens too! My clients fall in love! That is what happens. Fall in love and have the most incredible intimacy that keeps that love burning and burning. So be warned – don’t come to me unless you are ready for LOVE and the best sex of your LIFE.
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You’ve already got the money, and you are a successful professional but the love isn’t there because you have been hiding who you are
Trying to receive
Trying to have the thing that you want and BE WELL BEHAVED AND LOOK BEAUTIFUL
You might not even realise you are doing it because you have put on the well behaved persona for so many years as a professional that it is unconscious. Just the way that you are.
THIS IS ALL POINTLESS,
because, in that trying you will attract towards you people that have all the power, you will settle for something
and you won’t meet the ONE GREAT LOVE that you actually desire
YOUR POWER COMES FROM BEING FULLY WHO YOU ARE
And you being fully as you are, as a woman, as someone who carries the Wolf Woman in her bones,
It means being and expressing all of you, including your wildness
Fully showing up as all of who you are.
The only thing worth trying is, trying to be more of you, trying to be liked is pointless.
My partner of over 6 years time and time again shows me that he is proud to be with a Wild Woman
He says, yip, youre a wild one, I am with a wild woman, and he is so proud.
On our second date we had roast duck and I was looking at his BONES
At his BoNes and the Bones on his plate.
I asked him if I could have his bones, as I love crunching on bones, licking the marrow out of them, I think he was surprised.
I enjoyed them, I licked my fingers.
He made sure to see me every day from then on. Coming to my door even if only for a few minutes.
MOST WOMEN ON DATES ARE TRYING SO HARD TO BE LIKED
Trying to be the person you think you need to be in order for someone to love you
In order for someone to choose you
It is such a core need to be loved, and be liked and to have love in your life
For me, for years I was always trying to be what I thought someone else wanted
I was dating people and thinking, yeah this doesn’t feel great for me for this reason, but they are great in other ways
I WAS SO WANTING TO BE LIKED and to be CHOSEN
My whole life I had always been chosen and only dated men who had chosen me
I’d never risked being the one who went for what I really really really wanted
After I ended my marriage there was a period where I was choosing.
I BECAME THIS HUNTRESS
I was literally going out and hunting men.
It was amazing, I loved it,
I would look around and think, ooh, who do I want tonight
I had been married for 9 years and I got to choose.
Some of that was not coming from a healthy place as I was wanting this intimacy
I wasn’t use to being alone . I was feeling loneliness.
But there was this power in it.
IN THAT CHOOSING, I HAD MY FIRST EXPERIENCES OF REJECTION.
I am not saying it was the first time ever I fancied someone and not had them choose me.
But I’d never really been putting myself on the line and chosing before. Any partner I had they had always chosen me, and I knew then that they really wanted me. And I was always the one ending the relationship.
SO in this process of me choosing I had my first experiences of rejection.
I remember one guy that I’d been dating for about 6 weeks.
In my mind I had already decided I was more worthy and valued then him, like he was damn lucky to be dating me, in my mind he had issues, but I was willing to settle for them
HE REJECTED ME, I was like what!
I was going to a friends house for dinner that night and I had to go and do some meditation for a bit when I arrived because I was feeling so icky.
It was painful.
SOMETHING SHIFTED IN ME
When I met my partner I was in no way going to settle
I knew what I wanted in relationship
I wanted depth, I wanted to be chased,
I was fully choosing
I didn't need him even though I was still longing for Love.
Love is what it is all about for me. Because I need to live a life of depth, with another person that is an experience of depth that I crave if I don't have it.
I will help you become the person who is choosing
Who has the full experience of really choosing
And no longer settling
I know this is the part of your life that you are missing.
You are already being this amazing professional
This part of your life where you are not getting the healthy relationships you desire and not having the one true love that you long for
Through a process of undomestication, untaming, and coming home to who you really are, everything will change for you in relationships.
For instance my client Lindsay had left an abusive marriage with a narcissist and after our work for the first time ever was chased and chose for the first time ever an amazing partner, no narcissism, totally in love and both in their power in this new relationship.
My client Claire who kept having one night stands with people that she didn’t really fancy but wanted the intimacy. Once she claimed her own pleasure and could have incredible orgasms on her own and we bought her into her power, then for the first time met a man and became lovers where the intimacy felt healthy, she was fully choosing and she received adoring respect and care.
PM me if you are ready for expert guidance so that you become the woman you’ve always dreamt of being.
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YOUR ORGASM IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN HIS
It’s late at night, you’ve having sex and all you keep thinking about is the fact that it's late, you’re tired, the kitchen is dirty, your unlikely to have an orgasm….., in fact there is a part of you that actually doesn’t want to be having sex even though you know it is good for the relationship. You want to enjoy it.
YOU HAVE TO WAIT
Patience is required, your pussy doesn’t like to be rushed. She likes to be adored and given time to awaken. She likes to enjoyed. Where else in your body wants to be enjoyed too, did you notice that moment where a kiss and bite on your neck sent shivers of pleasure in your body, did you ask for MORE, more of what you like.
Did you make pussy wait till she was fully engorged, swollen and hot, and couldn’t wait anymore before she was penetrated, just a little at first, just a tease, before she gets filled right up.
DID YOU TELL YOURSELF YES
Did you let yourself enjoy and feed yourself words of enjoyment, yes, yes, yes. Did you feel for where the pleasure is…. Did you build that up by your willingness to enjoy. What happened then, did pussy wake up… did she start to ask for something….
YOUR PLEASURE IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN HIS
When you make your pleasure important it is a gift you give. The sex becomes intense, connected, hot, primal, filled with boundless love. Your whole body filled with turn on, with your arousal, with heat, rushes of pleasure. Riding the waves, building the arousal, waiting, pausing, then building again. Until that moment where the orgasm pulses wildly in EVERY PART OF YOUR BODY. Waves and waves of pleasure. Then bliss and ease of connection.
AN ORGASM CAN FUEL YOUR LIFE
A secret knowing between you the next day. Your whole body has rushes of pleasure from pussy to everywhere each time you remember… last night, the depth, the whole body pleasure.
You let yourself remember in those pauses in your day. You’re chatty ,connecting with everyone you meet and work with. Conversation is joyful and flowing, so much pleasure in each connection. You feel grounded and worthy of being.
CONFIDENCE IS IN YOUR BODY
Work is in flow, things are completed in rapid speed. What is your secret you're asked…. Is it a new haircut, a new outfit? Ah no..... ;)
That flow you created in the bedroom, that way you made your pleasure important, you feel it. You are worthy.
LIFE IS NOW, STEP FORWARD
PM me for unlocking more of this in YOU. That dull ache you feel for something MORE. For experiencing the depth of who you are as a sexual spiritual being, that is a call to awaken. That is call from your soul to come into full alignment to who you are. You’re a high achiever, you’re driven, you know you can succeed when you put your mind to it. And you know that if you put all your focus into your goals and miss this part out that ache will grow. You’ve been doing spiritual practice like yoga, meditation or some other kind of practice, perhaps for quite a few years. This is the next phase of your growth and you know it. You feel it. You’ve been denying it already. Trying to work it out. But you are sick of efforting. Of it feeling like hard work to have your pleasure. You want it to feel in flow. You want to feel open here too.
ACT NOW, RIGHT NOW,
Before that busy mind tries to work it all out. Make a plan, make it all complicated.
ONE STEP, THE NEXT STEP, IS ALL THAT IS REQUIRED
"I want to send a message of gratitude to you and say how much my life has changed since doing the sessions with you. My love life with my husband has improved dramatically and we are now having exciting, spontaneous, passionate, loving, intense sex most days now and my body responds so fast! Its almost the opposite now that my body responds so quickly to touch that the juices start flowing before my mind is even aroused! I'm able to have an orgasm probably every time now and moving forward I want to extend this feeling and have multiple - so thats the next step. My awakened confidence in my own body and sexuality is influencing all areas of my life and the lack of will no longer hold me back in the pursuit of total freedom to live this life to the fullest."
"First thing that happened was that my emotional block was finally addressed. This gave me huge relief and made me feel like my "problem" was already much smaller as I was giving it attention it deserved. I feel like I woke up to my sensuality instantly.I was given confidence that issues with your sexuality should be spoken about, and that woman can and should be helped with any problem they have which is holding them back from enjoying and embracing sex! It is not a topic many talk about!"
(Breakthrough messages from clients)
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Right now with the eclipse it’s a great opportunity to communicate your boundaries.
For me, the word boundary feels defensive, life I have to defend myself.
I prefer having STANDARDS for myself.
What Standards do you hold for yourself and do you actually hold true to them?
When you communicate your standards you are not rejecting anyone.
Stop being afraid that they will get hurt.
They’re a grownup for fucks sake and can take care of themselves.
You don’t need to mother everyone.
When you communicate your standards you are not pushing anyone away, you don’t need to fear their rejection.
Stop taking it back after you’ve already said it and wavering on your standard.
Listen to what your body told you first off.
You are not being strict or over the top.
You are taking care of yourself.
Feel that love in your chest that floods your body as you take care of yourself.
You are in this moment resting in your divinity.
So much love flowing around and between.
This is what living according to your personal standards creates.
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I woke up today realising that everything that my life is now I wishcrafted
I decided that it was how I was supposed to be living, and now here it is.
How crazy is that right!
No one ever told me that you can craft your own life.
I was only asked what are you going to do.
Not what do you wish your life to look like.
How do you want it to feel.
Who would you be surrounded by.
I had this grand idea of being a professional.
I never even considered what kind of life that would be and if it was a life that I, my true Self, wanted.
I was stuck in this horrible dark unknowing where
I JUST KNEW THAT I DIDN’T WANT MY WHOLE LIFE TO BE LIKE THIS,
this one that I had created.
I started to ask myself this question “how do you see your life”
I became a researcher of me. Following threads and desires until I found me again.
AND HERE I NOW AM
My beautiful home, living in nature less than 10 minutes walk from water, with a man who works with his body and is creative. Somewhere in a journal is the very piece of paper that I wrote this all down on.
NOW I AM ASKING MYSELF AGAIN TODAY, WHAT DO I WISH FOR?
What way of living would make me feel most alive?
There is a way out of any life that you have created now,
If it no longer feels like yours, the one that you now wish for.
#wishcrafting #claimyourownlife #designyourlife #dreambig #neverstopdreaming #letmetakeyoubythehandtoplacesbeyondyourwildestdreams
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DOES IT MAKE YOU FEEL GOOD OR ARE YOU FEARING?
It’s time for a pleasure reset people.
8 weeks of you and me being brutally honest about where in life you are avoiding pleasure and turning that DIAL to the other direction so you are always choosing life because you want to, instead of life choosing you. Feels oh so good. Oh yes, oh yes oh yes. So fricken good!
How many times do you find yourself feeling weighted down by the things you need to do, by all the self care items on your list, by all your daily tasks. What would it be like if you felt good each time you moved towards doing instead?
No more using willpower as that is a limited resource. Whereas pleasure is unlimited! And the more pleasure you have the easier everything gets as it releases Nitric Oxide which rebalances all your other neurotransmitters so you increase your capacity, your capability and decrease your limitations. I know all about this as I have been studying pleasure for years and even have a Masters in Human Factors and years of consulting which taught me all about this.
If something doesn’t feel good you just wont do it for long. You’ll avoid it. You’ll make excuses. It wont happen. And what a shit way to do life. Right!
So come on over to another way to do life. A way where you are choosing what feels good. Where you get to pull apart all that stuff you have been using willpower to do and make new choices. I’m not saying that you’ll stop doing everything – well you might! But what we’ll also be doing is changing your experience of life. This world is geared around hard work. Around you needing to be working at stuff, efforting. Efforting at life, efforting at orgasms. There is another way. It takes a breaking down of everything and giving your body time to connect to it in a new way. It takes learning ways to EXPAND your pleasure. It’s actually really fricken simple. I’ll teach you how. We’ll do it together with a group of super power women who are also in the profession of helping others, psychologists, psychotherapists, osteopaths, physios, healers, mentors, coaches. All you out there that have got used to putting the client first and have forgotten to chose your life based on pleasure. Its time for a PLEASURE RESET.
This is sustainability. This is the best medicine for pain, for your mental health, for wellness, for your gut, for your business and for your orgasms.
This is how it’ll look. Start in April. 8 weeks.
• Weekly audios for you to listen to while you walk, drive, cook, exercise.
• Q&A live calls on Zoom to ask questions, clear out the debri between you and pleasure on a body level and be inspired by all the other baddass world changer women.
• Living on the unlimited resource of pleasure. No more living on willpower.
• Lessons on how to play your body so you can get out of the busy mind and into experiencing pleasure. That’ll include body tools including super power ways to use your breath – if you didn’t know already specific ways to breathe give you a way into your pleasure.
• How to embody pleasure and your sexuality without being affected by bitchyness or feeling unsafe.
• Unwinding body tension including in the pelvis to access deeper pleasure
• Getting grounded to increase your capacity and capability and reduce your limitations.
• Orgasmic Yoga and rituals.
PM me to get on the list and find out all the details.
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🔥➳ MESSAGE ME IF YOU'RE READY FOR EXPERT GUIDANCE INTO YOUR EROTIC NATURE SO YOU CAN ACTIVATE MORE PLEASURE AND MANIFEST YOUR DEEPEST DESIRES
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I'm a wild one. Wild nature. Wild swimming and even better if naked. The first dive under the water too my breath away with an intensity that felt like my heart might stop and I could drown as it was so cold. Then again and again I dived in. Feeling my nakedness in the icy mountain water bringing me alive, cleansing me and making me feel wild and free.
I grew up wild and free. Running about in nature in the community where I lived in the Coromandel Peninsula in NZ. Then I got lost along the way. Thought I wanted to be a corporate professional wearing smart clothes. Distanced myself from the hippie childhood I had. Got a 'proper' job. Ended up in a relationship that I never really choose, just went along with and felt trapped in. Lost my power.
Well it took me 30 years before I started questioning it all. I Ended Everything. The relationship. The child I almost had. The job. Let it all go. Started to Choose Self. Started to listen to the whispers and shouting of my body that it wanted something different. That this life was draining not life giving. Ended it all. And as I did I experienced an Awakening. It felt like the blinkers had been taken off. I could see the world again with all it's beauty. And wow, I was blown away.
Standing on the deck of a ship in the Black Sea in Turkey. It was my birthday. I was going through a divorce. I was alone. I was afraid I'd never have children. And I had this Awakening. All my senses came back alive. When I got back home I was cycling through Bristol and I felt so alive! I could feel the breeze on my skin. I could feel every muscle moving in my body. I was free. It was an incredible feeling that I will never forget.
And now almost 38 and I am Being my wild naked self as much as possible. This is what healed me after the trauma of Ending It All. Coming into nature, swimming naked, dancing naked in the sunshine and being childlike free in my body. This is what brings me home. This is what Turns Me on.
Sorry other walkers on the path - I hope I inspired you and didn't shock you too much. Thank you Kate Craig Brown Photography for capturing the moment.
P.s. 🔥 send me a message to experience whole new levels of ecstasy in your body. To create an Orgasmic Life. For Sensual Enlightenment. To create deep Connection in Relationship. To call in Love that you are so so ecstatic about. Message me.
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When was the last time you spent two hours dedicated just to your pleasure, to sex, to intimacy?
I have started getting up at 5am. 5am! I am a lover of sleep and my normal working day now that I am an entrepreneur has been 11am for the last two years. I adore moving to my own rhythm. It's one of the things I love about no longer having a job working for someone else.
Why do I do this crazy 5am to myself? I've decided that getting a sweat on in the morning is good for me. I want to be fit and strong as I love how I feel when I am. To motivate myself I've have done the crazy thing of joining a morning Bootcamp.
I'm a determined person. When I want something and set my mind to it I even impress myself with how much I can stick to it. There was a moment when I missed one morning and my critter brain considered not going to the next session too. But the Mistress of Bootcamp messaged me and asked me why I didn't show. She got me back in the rhythm.
I'm telling you all this because so many people come to me saying they lack sexual desire. And they really miss it. That their sexual arousal is hard to access and they feel really stuck. If you can relate to that I need to tell you something.
Women are like a pot of water. If we don't get heated up very often we are cold. So if you are not putting in the time for your sexual pleasure, that pot may even be freezing. When the pot is cold there is no sexual desire. Because.... Sexual Desire happens only when you FEEL Sexual Arousal. When you feel that good feeling in your body you desire SEX.
If you want to have a hot sex life then it needs to be prioritised. Before other things like the washing, the dishes, the cleaning, the ....... RADICAL suggestion. Imagine prioritising your pleasure.
Women can feel self indulgent, self serving, guilty for making sex and pleasure important. Like as if self indulgence is a bad thing! This is society's messages. Listen to your body not society. I dare you to answer this - how do you feel after a delicious sexual experience? Is everything that much easier too? Do you feel joyful? Happy? Capable? Confident? Creative? Like a superstar?
Let your body be your guide.
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"I Am a Playful Erotic Being" 🔥
Take that as a mantra and see what you choose for your self instead of all your busyness
There are things that you can do for 5 minutes every day while you shower that will make a big difference to keeping your pot warm. It doesn't have to be a big deal. Let's not get all serious about it. Instead try inviting the playful you to lead. Put on some sexy panties. Put on your favourite music. Shake that booty. Cover yourself in delicious smelling oil. Have a bath. Even better, allow yourself to have an orgasm. Allow your body to have some pleasure.
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